One of the core beliefs that I touch upon in my book, Discovering and Living Your Soul’s Purpose, is that you are not responsible for other peoples emotional reactions, ever. Most people believe that they are and that breeds a society of victimhood, disempowered individuals who stay in a constant flux of emotional toxicity, leading to co-dependent unhealthy relationships. Sound familiar?
I would like to point out the difference here between being responsible to your own emotions and how that differs from taking on the reactions of another, which has nothing to do with you.
Most peoples reactions are embedded in the past and when you trigger an emotion that is not healed, released in love or forgiven, it comes back into the moment as if it still at the original point of it’s creation and responds in a negative, unhealthy manner. Most experience this as mistrust, guilt, unworthiness, anger, fear, frustration or anxiety, there are many more emotions that can come through like rage or the flight or fight response which is conditioned into the body’s chemical releases at a young age when trauma set in.
One thing that you can personally do is recognize within yourself that when you feel an emotional reaction coming up within you, stay calm and observe it, ask where it first originated or why it is now present and what is asking to be healed, you might be very surprised by the answers you receive. When you see others reacting strongly in a negative way to your conversations, opinions or choices in life, it really has nothing at all to do with you, it is based on their own past or present beliefs and most peoples beliefs come from their dysfunctional family patterns, generational inheritance on a cellular level, experiences which are seeking enlightenment and healing. The best and most influential relationship you can have with that person is to observe their reaction and continue on with what ever it is that you were speaking of, or discontinue and honor the other person inability to digest your own perception or ideas at the moment. Not everyone moves at the same pace, some people need more time than others to process what has happened, some people are unconscious of their pain and the origin of it’s traumatic miasm, it can take months to move through an experience or years even to recognize that you are experiencing deep pain within. You can reach out and ask for help and guidance, coaching or receive a healing from a qualified professional that can bring you gently yet firmly to a space of self-love and unconditional acceptance.
*Definition of a Miasm: a hereditary genetic energetic disturbance or burden as it represents the body’s energetic weak-spot.